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Celebrating International Women’s Day at Nellie’s

Posted on: March 27th, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

Every year on March 8th, the world comes together to celebrate International Women’s Day — a day dedicated to recognizing the achievements of women, raising awareness about gender equality, and advocating for women’s rights worldwide. As a women’s shelter focused on creating social change through education, advocacy, and support, International Women’s Day holds profound significance for us. It’s a day when we reaffirm our commitment to standing in solidarity with women, advocating for their rights, and fostering a community where every woman feels safe, valued, and empowered to thrive.

This year, on March 14th, we marked International Women’s Day with a special in-person event celebrating inspirational women. It was incredible to see our community of supporters and staff come together for the evening, which was also a part of our year of celebrations in honour of Nellie’s 50th anniversary. (Click through the photos below to see the full-size images!)

Our keynote speaker was Samra Zafar, an award-winning internationally renowned speaker, bestselling author and educator for equity, mental health, and human rights. Her book, A Good Wife: Escaping The Life I Never Chose, is based on her journey of escaping an abusive child marriage to pursue her education. Samra’s talk was inspiring — she focused on the importance of resilience, incorporating her story as a child bride, eventually going to university, and now about to graduate medical school. She also spoke about how to not get in your own way, and how to cut ties with people who are not good for you.

Our attendees were also treated to an electrifying performance from award- winning singer/ songwriter Domanique Grant. Her uplifting and empowering songs had the entire audience up on their feet, dancing and singing along with her. This “artist to watch” (as Spotify named her) is an extremely talented performer, and we loved having her feel-good self-love anthems as part of our special evening.

Thank you to all who attended our very special International Women’s Day event, and a very special thank you to Samra and Domanique for sharing their stories and music with us. We hope to see you all at our next celebration!

50 facts for 50 years of Nellie’s (part 2)

Posted on: March 21st, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

photobooth12023 marks 50 years since we first opened our doors. It is an incredible milestone, and a reminder of the shelter and support we have given to thousands of women and their children fleeing violence, trauma and homelessness since 1973.

To mark our 50-year anniversary, we’re sharing 50 facts about Nellie’s. Read on to learn about our shelter, our community programs, and so much more.

  1. Breaking the cycle of violence by focusing on empowerment and prevention is an essential focus for Nellie’s as we move into our next 50 years. Not only are we supporting women when they experience violence, but we are now also acting preventatively in order to fight for a better future.
  2. In 2022, Nellie’s staff were trained to integrate a powerful empowerment self-defense (ESD) program into our support programs for women, and we became the first gender-based violence organization in Canada to implement the world-renowned anti-bullying program aimed at children, Rock and Water.
  3. For both our ESD and Rock and Water programs, the approach is very different from the traditional model for self-defense. The former provides training on proactively preventing, responding and healing from traumatic events, whereas the latter teaches kids through a series of exercises and games about setting their own boundaries, making independent decisions, using communication, and respecting others’ limits.
  4. In addition to ESD within our shelter, this program has since also been adapted into a community workshop. In the first four months of running our prevention programs, Nellie’s taught a total of 297 unique participants at the shelter and in the community.
  5. While Rock and Water has already made an incredible impact on the children living at Nellie’s, we’re now spreading these powerful anti-bullying techniques to children beyond our walls. Last year we ran an 8-week pilot program in a Grade 4/5 class in a school in Brampton, and we hope to bring this program to additional schools this year.
  6. In 2023, Nellie’s was selected to showcase our empowerment self-defense work at the 2023 NGO CSW67 Forum in New York City, an event that runs in parallel to the UN Commission on the Status of Women.
  7. The forum, which was attended by 15,000 people from 139 different countries, consisted of hundreds of events throughout a two-week period. In our presentation, we shared how shifting our focus from reaction to prevention is crucial to ending gender-based violence and how it has allowed us to discover the role that empowerment self-defense can play in helping women achieve transformative justice.
  8. In 2023, 550 people were supported by our Community Support & Outreach (CSO) programs, including Senior Socialization, which provides vital engagement for older clients; Women on the Move for women with disabilities; Women Ending Abuse and Violence (WEAV), which focuses on teaching women about healthy dating and relationships; and our food program.
  9. Nellie’s runs three to five different CSO programs every week.
  10. Thanks to a government grant and in-kind support from our incredible community, 85 seniors participated in our Senior Socialization program last year, which included regular computer literacy sessions, bi-weekly yoga classes, and trips to attractions, such as the Royal Ontario Museum, Art Gallery of Ontario, and Ripley’s Aquarium.
  11. In the past year, our WEAV program has focused on providing healthy dating and relationship guidance for young women through a new five-week workshop. Designed to teach women how to keep themselves safe in relationships, the workshop creates a welcoming space where women can learn about the spectrum of abuse, signs that can lead to unhealthy relationships, and common terminology like gaslighting and love bombing.
  12. While the Healthy Dating & Relationships workshops were initially intended for high school and university students, their success has snowballed, with requests pouring in from other shelters and community centres, for women of all ages.
  13. Over the last year, 60 workshop sessions were delivered through the WEAV program, with 105 different women participating.
  14. Designed to address the gap in services for women with physical disabilities who have experienced abuse, our Women on the Move program resumed in November 2023 with a new cohort of 25 women enrolled, at least 10 of whom are consistently attending each session.
  15. For over 20 years, the Nellie’s food program has been supporting women and their children living in our community.
  16. Every week, 120 families rely on our food program to access a basic human need — that’s as much as double the number we were serving just a year prior.
  17. From week to week, our food program fills food baskets with a wide variety of foods, like fresh fruit and vegetables, pasta and rice, peanut butter, and milk. We round out each basket with stock from our own non-perishable food pantry to ensure that each family receives a nourishing mix of protein, canned and boxed goods, and produce.
  18. In January 2024, our food program moved into a new space inside the Kimbourne Park United Church. This new location has the potential to expand our program, and we’re hoping to soon offer weekly milk, eggs, meat, and bread for our clients.
  19. Nellie’s is currently participating in Food Bank Canada’s Menstrual Equity Fund Pilot to help address period poverty in Canada.
  20. Last summer, 11 children staying at Nellie’s participated in a Learn to Bike program, along with children living at The Redwood, another Toronto-area shelter for women and children. Through this program, the kids each received their very own new bike and helmet, and learned about bike safety and how to ride. Plus, the bikes and helmets were theirs to keep and take with them when they left the shelter.
  21. In our Chef’s Corner, a part of our Children’s Program, we teach older kids living at Nellie’s how to make simple recipes like sandwiches and fruit salad — with the goal that when they leave the shelter, they know how to make easy snacks or meals on their own.
  22. In 2023, Nellie’s joined over 100 organizations in signing an open letter to the Ontario government to declare Intimate Partner Violence an epidemic.
  23. Thanks to a financial contribution from Health Canada, we’re currently developing a brand-new substance use program which aims to increase the knowledge of and build additional capacity for harm reduction services within violence against women shelters.
  24. Backpacks aren’t just for back-to-school time at Nellie’s. We fill backpacks year-round with clothing and other essentials that moms who come to Nellie’s might need for their little ones. For moms of babies or toddlers, the backpacks can also conveniently double as diaper bags.
  25. With a focus on empowerment and prevention, we’re shifting the tide from measuring how many people are coming through our doors, to how we are truly changing the world. The hope is that by the time Nellie’s celebrates 100 years, there will be less of a need for us as a crisis organization.

50 facts for 50 years of Nellie’s (part 1)

Posted on: February 28th, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

IMG_49732023 marks 50 years since we first opened our doors. It is an incredible milestone, and a reminder of the shelter and support we have given to thousands of women and their children fleeing violence, trauma and homelessness since 1973.

To mark our 50-year anniversary, we’re sharing 50 facts about Nellie’s. Read on to learn about our shelter, our community programs, and so much more.

  1. Over fifty years ago, a group of women activists realized that in the city of Toronto there were only 40 beds available for homeless women and over 400 beds for homeless men. Moved to action by this inequity, Nellie’s was founded in 1973.
  2. Nellie’s was named after Nellie McClung, the pioneer feminist who challenged the Canadian government in the Supreme Court of Canada to have women declared persons under the law.
  3. Opened in 1973, our first shelter had 16 beds and was located on Broadview Ave.
  4. The shelter was initially established for young homeless women dealing with teenage pregnancy, suicide, self-harm, crime, prostitution, ill-health and abuse, but staff began to notice that most of the women accessing Nellie’s were middle-aged and older women fleeing domestic violence.
  5. In 1978, Nellie’s purchased the beautiful historic residential building that became home for more than four decades.
  6. Over the years, in response to the overwhelming need, Nellie’s increased its occupancy rate to 36 beds and made the main focus of the organization disrupting violence against women and their children.
  7. In the early ’90s, current Toronto MPP Kristyn Wong-Tam worked at Nellie’s as an overnight relief worker.
  8. In 2002, Nellie’s opened its Community Support and Outreach office on Queen St. E. Here we provided programming, transitional housing support, a food bank, and more to women and their children who had moved out of the shelter and those who lived in our community at risk of homelessness.
  9. Thanks to a generous grant from La Fondation Emmanuelle Gattuso, in 2017 Nellie’s launched a children’s program to address the wide range of issues facing children living at the shelter, while also providing them with a safe space to play, explore, and laugh.
  10. Two years later, an additional grant allowed Nellie’s to expand the program to also focus on supporting teens living in our shelter.
  11. What started out as a simple craft-based program for little ones in the basement playroom of our old shelter has grown, and now our children’s program spans three bright, window-lined rooms in our new shelter, with spaces and programming suited for kids of all ages.
  12. In 2019, Nellie’s secured a substantial government investment for the purchase of a new shelter building and began raising capital to complete the necessary renovations.
  13. Before we could move into our new shelter, the building required a lot of renovations — including historic brick and window restoration, roof repair, plumbing upgrades, and fireproofing.
  14. In 2022, Nellie’s moved into its current home, a stunning three-storey Victorian building in the east end of Toronto, which was originally built in 1901.
  15. The new shelter is 21,800 sq. ft., compared to the old shelter’s 8,900 sq. ft. footprint.
  16. Our new shelter has capacity for up to 38 beds across 22 bedrooms (an increase from 36 beds across 9 rooms in the old building), giving some privacy to each family unit.
  17. Each bedroom has its own private bathroom — four of which are barrier-free.
  18. More than just more bedrooms, the new shelter gives us more program space, more living space, more dining space, more play space for kids, more quiet space, and more space for our staff to work together on new and innovative approaches to trauma support and violence prevention.
  19. When visitors walk into Nellie’s, one of the first things they’ll see is our “Hearts & Hands” mural hanging in our common room. Created in 2002 by residents and staff at Nellie’s, it represents the community and hope found within our walls.
  20. The move to our new shelter led to us closing the Community Support and Outreach office on Queen St. In 2023 we opened a new office on Cosburn Ave. in East York to continue offering these services.
  21. This past summer, Nellie’s invested in an e-bike for staff members to use while running errands or when commuting between our shelter and our community location on Cosburn. Eco-friendly, cost-effective, and FUN!
  22. With pet-friendly bedrooms, a pet care room, and an outdoor play area, we’re thrilled that our new shelter is pet-friendly! We’re proud to be one of just a handful of shelters in Toronto to accept pets — because domestic violence victims shouldn’t have to choose between their own safety or the safety of their beloved animals.
  23. In 2022/2023, 81 women stayed at Nellie’s, along with 61 children. During this time, one baby was also born at the shelter!
  24. Over the same time period, 104 women received housing support from Nellie’s through our Transitional Housing Program. This program helps women who have situations of violence, poverty, and homelessness access safe and affordable housing.
  25. In the last year, the average length of stay at Nellie’s was five months — about twice as long as the previous year due to the critical lack of affordable housing availability in Toronto.

Stay tuned for part 2, coming up next month!

50 years of Nellie’s: A timeline

Posted on: November 16th, 2023 by Nellie's No Comments

HandsMuralFifty years ago, a group of women activists realized that in the city of Toronto there were only 40 beds available for homeless women and over 400 beds for homeless men. Moved to action by this inequality, Nellie’s was founded in 1973 — and it was named after pioneer feminist, Nellie McClung (who was one of five women who challenged the Canadian government in the Supreme Court of Canada to have women declared persons under the law). Here are some of our biggest milestones over the last fifty years:

1973: Nellie’s opens its doors with a 16-bed shelter on Broadview Ave. While initially established for young homeless women dealing with teenage pregnancy, suicide, self-harm, crime, prostitution, ill-health and abuse, staff began to notice that most of the women accessing Nellie’s were middle-aged and older women fleeing domestic violence.

1978: Nellie’s purchases the beautiful historic residential building that became home for more than four decades. Over the years, in response to the overwhelming need, Nellie’s increased its occupancy rate to 36 beds and made the main focus of the organization disrupting violence against women and their children.

2002: Nellie’s opens its Community Support and Outreach office on Queen St. E. Here we provided programming, transitional housing support, a food bank, and more to women and their children who had moved out of the shelter and those who lived in our community at risk of homelessness.

2017: Thanks to a generous grant from La Fondation Emmanuelle Gattuso, Nellie’s launches a children’s program to address the wide range of issues facing children living at the shelter, while also providing them with a safe space to play, explore, and laugh. Two years later, an additional grant allowed Nellie’s to expand the program to also focus on supporting teens living in our shelter.

2019: Nellie’s secures a substantial government investment for the purchase of a new shelter building and begins raising capital to complete the necessary renovations.

2022: Nellie’s moves to the stunning three-storey Victorian building we now call home. Our new shelter has capacity for up to 38 beds across 22 bedrooms (an increase from 36 beds across 9 rooms in the old building), giving family units some privacy, and ample space to provide supportive programs and services. The move closed the Community Support and Outreach office on Queen St., and in 2023 we opened a new office on Cosburn Ave. in East York to offer these services.

2023: Nellie’s gains ground with empowerment self-defense work at the 2023 NGO CSW67 Forum in New York City, an event that runs in parallel to the UN Commission on the Status of Women.

An interview with Nellie’s former staffer, Kristyn Wong-Tam

Posted on: October 12th, 2023 by Nellie's No Comments

IMG-33152023 marks 50 years since we first opened our doors. It is an incredible milestone, and a reminder of the shelter and support we have given to thousands of women and their children fleeing violence, trauma and homelessness since 1973.

In an occasional series, we’re highlighting stories from 50 years of Nellie’s, including former board members, volunteers, staff members, and more.

Kristyn Wong-Tam, Toronto Centre’s current Member of Provincial Parliament, was an overnight relief worker at Nellie’s in the early 1990s. As a first-year university student, Kristyn started working at Nellie’s somewhat by chance — they were already working at another women’s shelter downtown from 4pm to midnight, and so when they heard Nellie’s needed an overnight relief worker from midnight to 8am, they were keen to pick up an extra shift and earn some more money.

Although they were new to working in shelters, this wasn’t Kristyn’s first experience with homelessness. “At age 16, I came out to my parents, and after that I didn’t feel safe staying home anymore because there were threats towards me,” explains Kristyn. They spent the next two years trying to finish high school while sleeping on friends’ couches, in shelters, rooming houses, and even on the streets. “My story wasn’t unique — this was so prevalent, especially back in those years. But I was able to see first-hand what a difference it made for me to have a safe space and a bed of my own at a shelter, even if only for a night. I really quickly had a deep understanding and appreciation of what it means to have a safe space. And I know personally how quickly someone can lose their home. Because it’s not something I had anticipated. I come from a very tight-knit, small immigrant family. The last thing I would’ve expected was that I would’ve been on my own at the age of 16.”

In some ways, the women and their children coming into Nellie’s reminded Kristyn of their own experience — except now they were on the other side as a shelter worker. “I was able to see early on, the very deep care from Nellie’s in how they treated their clients,” says Kristyn. This was highlighted by how extremely disparate their experiences were in working at two women’s shelters at the same time. Kristyn recalls that at the other shelter (which is no longer in operation), the work was very impersonal. Part-time relief workers, most of whom were university students like Kristyn, would complete intake forms, dispense medications, and prepare food like scrambled eggs from a bag. “I’m pretty sure that during my entire time I was there, I never saw fresh fruits or vegetables,” remembers Kristyn, who was visibly moved by this strong memory. “When I saw the crates of fruits and vegetables come in at Nellie’s, that really struck me — because at the other shelter they were given nothing but frozen vegetables and canned foods. I’ll always remember those fruit and veggie deliveries. You don’t get that level of care at all shelters.”

Kristyn didn’t fully realize it then, but when they reflect back on their time at Nellie’s now, they understand that this experience helped them develop their values and lead them towards a path of political advocacy. Working at Nellie’s was eye-opening for them as they learned about systemic structural violence against women. Although they only were able to work at Nellie’s for a year, they refer to it as a “year of tremendous growth” for them.

“Working with homeless populations and women fleeing violence absolutely informed my political thinking,” explains Kristyn. “It helped me see the inequities and injustices of the world. It put it all in sharper focus. I translated my working and lived experiences into a desire to make policy and legislative change. To compel decision makers to do things differently. Those formative years, working in the shelters, opened my eyes to the structural changes that are needed.”

Thirty years later, Kristyn is proud to have played a role in Nellie’s history, and wants more people to understand the importance of the work that we do. “Nellie’s is meeting the response to homelessness by providing women with dignity — the dignity that they deserve and the care that they deserve,” says Kristyn. “It’s not just that Nellie’s is helping women rebuild their lives by directing them to a counsellor or a housing worker, but they’re also healing them while getting them back on their feet. Nellie’s has been a model of what shelter programming could be.”

As part of this interview, the Nellie’s team took Kristyn on a tour of our new shelter building, which just so happens to be in the same neighbourhood they grew up in. “Going back into the house, taking a tour, and our conversations today…it helped reinforce in me why I’m here doing this work,” says Kristyn. “I’ll always be so grateful that Nellie’s showed me another world was possible.”

Meet Emily McClung: The great-granddaughter of Nellie’s namesake, Nellie McClung

Posted on: July 13th, 2023 by Nellie's

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Fifty years ago, a group of women activists realized that in the city of Toronto there were only 40 beds available for homeless women and over 400 beds for homeless men. Moved to action by this inequality, Nellie’s was founded in 1973 — and it was named after pioneer feminist, Nellie McClung.

As a member of the Famous Five, Nellie was one of five women who challenged the Canadian government in the Supreme Court of Canada to have women declared persons under the law and give them the right to serve in the Canadian Senate. She also played a leading role in the women’s suffrage movement in Canada, helping to grant women the vote in Alberta and Manitoba in 1916.

At Nellie’s, we’re truly proud to honour such an amazing woman through our work. And we think it’s pretty incredible to see how her legacy has lived on through her family as well, particularly through her great grand-daughter, Emily McClung. Emily has been a long-time supporter of Nellie’s, including being an active member of our fundraising committee for many years.  

“I was really drawn to Nellie’s cause and I wanted to support the organization, obviously because it was named after our great-grandmother,” explains Emily.

Nellie McClung’s work was always prevalent in Emily’s home life, ever since she was a child. “She definitely influenced me,” says Emily. “I grew up in a house where [her influence] was always there, and we talked about her work a lot. I’ve read every single one of her books.” (Nellie published sixteen in total!)

After spending many years as a dedicated volunteer, Emily felt inspired to find a career in the gender-based violence sector. She now works as a Development and Engagement Manager at Ernestine’s women’s shelter in the west end of Toronto, and her great-grandmother is still guiding her along the way.

“The ideas of community, equity, and social justice are really important to me. And that’s how Nellie did it,” explains Emily. “She started with her little community and took her movement national, and then international. I really think about that a lot in my work — how to engage the community, and how to really talk to the community with empathy.”

As she carries on her great-grandmother’s ideals through her own work, the Nellie’s organization will always hold a special spot in her heart. “I feel really proud of the work she did and that legacy, and how that legacy lives on through the great work of places like Nellie’s,” she says. “I’m very proud of having my family’s name attached to Nellie’s.”

Meet Margaret Bryce, one of Nellie’s earliest board members

Posted on: May 31st, 2023 by Nellie's No Comments

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2023 marks 50 years since we first opened our doors. It is an incredible milestone, and a reminder of the shelter and support we have given to thousands of women and their children fleeing violence, trauma and homelessness since 1973.

 In an occasional series, we’re highlighting stories from 50 years of Nellie’s, including former board members, volunteers, staff members, and more.

 Margaret Bryce was one of Nellie’s earliest board members, acting as treasurer from February 1975 to November 1977. After being asked to join the board by founding board member Vicki Trerise (Vicki had to ask Margaret twice, in fact!), Margaret agreed, because she was passionate about housing and women’s issues. “I was very involved with feminism in those days,” explains Margaret, and helping to make Nellie’s a sustainable source of support for the women and their children who needed them was an amazing way of giving back to her community.

One of Margaret’s most impactful contributions to the history of Nellie’s is that she helped to negotiate the purchase of our original building. Initially, Nellie’s shelter building was a joint venture with the YMCA, who owned the house adjacent to their main building. But after the YMCA was demolished and the property was sold to a developer, Nellie’s was able to buy the property, with the help of a federal funding program for housing.

But even with their own property secured, Nellie’s was always “living hand to mouth”, as Margaret puts it. The board was constantly hard at work to find more money and become more sustainable. From applying for grants to doing outreach to city councillors and the media, the board knew that if they wanted to continue to help the women of Toronto who needed them, then they needed more financial support. Margaret shared one story of founder June Callwood making a radio appearance for a CBC morning show, and how after that interview the cheques started pouring in. “People would send cheques straight to the CBC because they didn’t know where else to send them,” recalls Margaret.

But while Nellie’s did start to receive a lot of support from Torontonians, there were still also many struggles. “At the beginning, we used to be accused of breaking up families,” says Margaret. “We mostly took in homeless women who were leaving marriages. Sometimes we took in single women who were leaving their parents or their boyfriends.”

Reflecting on her time with Nellie’s, Margaret feels very fortunate to have helped develop one of Toronto’s first women’s shelters: “I’m very proud of Nellie’s. I’m proud of what we did in the beginning, and I’m proud of how they were able to develop over the years, to get more stable funding, and [eventually] a new place to live, where they are right now.”