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A message from Executive Director Jyoti Singh

Posted on: December 21st, 2023 by Nellie's No Comments

JS-Jan2023-EditIf you’re feeling the weight of the world on your shoulders lately, you’re not alone. Here at Nellie’s, we’re all feeling the financial pressures of rising grocery prices and housing costs, while also managing our emotions around ongoing wars and climate change concerns. It’s not easy being a human in this world right now, and yet every day, I still manage to feel encouraged, thanks to the incredible generosity of our community.

Despite everything, our donors still continue to support the women and children at Nellie’s. We know that making the choice to donate your hard-earned dollars to charity is not an easy thing to do at this time, and yet here you are, choosing Nellie’s. I think it speaks to the importance of the work that we’re doing, and also to the phenomenal generosity of the people who support us. It leaves me kind of speechless to see our community continuing to show up for our women and children. We’re so incredibly thankful to all of you.

Because again, due to rising costs and inflation, it’s become harder and harder for us to operate our shelter at our standards. To purchase enough food for the women and their children living in our shelter, along with the 120 families in our community who rely on our food bank every week. To buy enough supplies to support the 81 women and their 61 children who stayed with us in 2022/2023.

Fortunately, some good financial news came along recently though: in November, the federal government announced that they will be investing $162 million over four years to support the implementation of the National Action Plan to End Gender-based Violence in Ontario. The plan is focused on three priority areas: increasing prevention efforts; reaching underserved and at-risk populations; and stabilizing the GBV sector. As we move into the new year, we’re looking forward to how this funding will help us stabilize our finances here at Nellie’s.

As we move into 2024, we will continue to honour 50 years since Nellie’s first opened its doors. This fall, we held our annual general meeting in person for the first time since COVID — being able to celebrate and mark our achievements with our staff, board members, and volunteers all in one place was very special for us. We are currently working on planning a few more small, tasteful events to mark our 50th anniversary and celebrate the dedication of our staff and supporters over the last half of a century. In the new year, we’ll also be updating our logo, mission, and vision statements, and we can’t wait to show you our rebranded look later in 2024, which will better reflect our current vision for our organization.

Over the past five decades, Nellie’s has primarily been known for the shelter and support we provide to women and their children fleeing violence, trauma, and homelessness — and while our crisis services will always be a core priority for our organization, we’re excited to also be shifting our focus to delivering empowerment and prevention programs that disrupt the cycle of violence.

Because across the GBV sector, one troubling fact we’re hearing about is that the next generation of our clients are now starting to come through our doors — the children who first came to our shelter with their moms, are now coming through as adults. This solidifies to us the need to be doing more as a system to break the cycle and to focus more on prevention. We hope that the story 50 years from now is very different. While we may not be able to completely eradicate gender-based violence in the next 50 years, we can definitely lessen the impact by breaking the cycle for future generations.

Thank you for your continued, generous support — it’s because of you that everything we do is possible.

Take Back the Night 2012: September 15th

Posted on: September 21st, 2012 by Nellie's No Comments

On September 15th, 2012, the women and children at Nellie’s will go to the Maseryk-Cowan Community Centre in Parkdale to participate in the 32nd annual Take Back the Night Community Fair, Rally and March, organized by the Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape. Every year, women, children, genderqueer and transpeople take to the streets to protest violence against women and victim-blaming. The march takes place in different areas of Toronto each year in an attempt to reach out to different communities and to reiterate that violence against women can happen anywhere.

This year the theme is Un-Occupying Our Minds, Healing Ourselves. The event starts with the Community Fair and dinner. Representatives from various women’s and other social service agencies will have booths set up in the community centre to provide information pamphlets, key chains, magnets and other items. Nellie’s will have its own booth so please feel free to stop by and visit! Then, we will step outside for the rally. The rally is usually a combination of cries to action, stories, poetry, music, self-defense demonstrations and more. After this, we will take to the streets for the Take Back the Night march. We will walk, sing, chant, march, rally and cheer.

As a shelter for women and children who have experienced violence and other forms of oppression, the march feels like a new home; it is not only a place of solidarity but also a call to action. The message is heard loud and clear throughout the streets:

“Hey hey, ho ho – violence against women has got to go!”

“Hey mister, mister – keep your hands off my sister!”

“Together, united, we cannot be defeated!”

The march is empowering, engaging, fun and builds community. It is quite moving seeing so many women and survivors of violence rallying together for change. But, it is also a reminder; it reminds us why we are marching and why we continue to work to end violence against women.

We walk for our own safety, for the safety of our mothers, daughters, sisters, grandmothers, aunts, partners and friends. We march to commemorate the murder and life of Barbra Schlifer, a feminist/activist lawyer who on the night that she was called to the bar, was murdered. We walk to commemorate her death and the death of so many women who have died through violence. We also walk to commemorate their lives. We walk to remember, to build solidarity and to build a future free from violence against women.

This year, it is especially important to take to the streets to march. Given the sexual assaults in the Annex and the murders and other acts of violence against women that appear in the news daily, it is important to get involved and take action. Given the current political climate, we need to hold abusers responsible and make it clear that “Short skirts don’t rape – rapist rape”. Join us on September 15th at 4pm for the Community Fair, 6pm for the Rally and 8pm for the march – we need to march together to take back the night and take just one more step towards making this city a safer place for all women and children.

For more info about Take Back The Night, please see the Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape’s website.

Take Back the Night 2012: September 15th

Posted on: September 10th, 2012 by Nellie's No Comments

On September 15th, 2012, the women and children at Nellie’s will go to the Maseryk-Cowan Community Centre in Parkdale to participate in the 32nd annual Take Back the Night Community Fair, Rally and March, organized by the Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape. Every year, women, children, genderqueer and transpeople take to the streets to protest violence against women and victim-blaming. The march takes place in different areas of Toronto each year in an attempt to reach out to different communities and to reiterate that violence against women can happen anywhere.

This year the theme is Un-Occupying Our Minds, Healing Ourselves. The event starts with the Community Fair and dinner. Representatives from various women’s and other social service agencies will have booths set up in the community centre to provide information pamphlets, key chains, magnets and other items. Nellie’s will have its own booth so please feel free to stop by and visit! Then, we will step outside for the rally. The rally is usually a combination of cries to action, stories, poetry, music, self-defense demonstrations and more. After this, we will take to the streets for the Take Back the Night march. We will walk, sing, chant, march, rally and cheer.

As a shelter for women and children who have experienced violence and other forms of oppression, the march feels like a new home; it is not only a place of solidarity but also a call to action. The message is heard loud and clear throughout the streets:

“Hey hey, ho ho – violence against women has got to go!”

“Hey mister, mister – keep your hands off my sister!”

“Together, united, we cannot be defeated!”

The march is empowering, engaging, fun and builds community. It is quite moving seeing so many women and survivors of violence rallying together for change. But, it is also a reminder; it reminds us why we are marching and why we continue to work to end violence against women.

We walk for our own safety, for the safety of our mothers, daughters, sisters, grandmothers, aunts, partners and friends. We march to commemorate the murder and life of Barbra Schlifer, a feminist/activist lawyer who on the night that she was called to the bar, was murdered. We walk to commemorate her death and the death of so many women who have died through violence. We also walk to commemorate their lives. We walk to remember, to build solidarity and to build a future free from violence against women.

This year, it is especially important to take to the streets to march. Given the sexual assaults in the Annex and the murders and other acts of violence against women that appear in the news daily, it is important to get involved and take action. Given the current political climate, we need to hold abusers responsible and make it clear that “Short skirts don’t rape – rapist rape”. Join us on September 15th at 4pm for the Community Fair, 6pm for the Rally and 8pm for the march – we need to march together to take back the night and take just one more step towards making this city a safer place for all women and children.

For more info about Take Back The Night, please see the Toronto Rape Crisis Centre/Multicultural Women Against Rape’s website.

Women Experiencing Abuse & Violence Support Group: Resistance through Storytelling

Posted on: March 23rd, 2012 by Nellie's No Comments

Nellies’ W.E.A.V group has made a successful start, kicking off the first week of February. Last week we were joined by Sonny B of R3 Collective who facilitated a two week workshop series exploring storytelling and identity using creative writing, spoken word and music as the medium.

Women who stay silent about abuse do so for many reasons; shame, fear of reprisal from systems such as Immigration and Children’s Aid, as well as threats and coercion from abusers. Children who are abused are often told not to tell anyone, that the abuse is a ‘secret’ and that they will not be believed. These messages continue to inundate adult survivors of violence and abuse, and silence is a valuable tool used by abusers and oppressors to have power over their victims.

Speaking out about violence and abuse is itself a form of resistance, not to mention an integral part of the healing process. Oppressed groups have be silenced throughout history, and Nellie’s remains committed to providing spaces for women’s voices to be heard, and bringing those voices to the centre as part of our commitment to Advocacy and Social Justice. Check out this great TED Talk by Chimimanda Adiche, “The Danger of a Single Story.”  In this video Chimimanda talks about the implications and importance of who tells our stories and how they are told:

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While the focus of W.E.A.V is on sexual assault, intimate partner and familial abuse, we discuss and acknowledge less recognized forms of abuse such as racism, homophobia and transphobia, ableism and poverty, not just as issues that compound violence but as forms of systemic violence in and of themselves.

With the guidance of Sonny, a skilled story teller, musician and facilitator, women used the arts to give voice to issues that directly affect their lives. Women worked on individual pieces as well as collaborated to create a spoken word piece titled: ‘Poverty’.

For more information about the R3 Collective click here or contact Sonny directly at sonnybeanmusic@gmail.com