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Archive for October, 2012

Nurturing Ourselves Workshop

Posted on: October 31st, 2012 by Nellie's No Comments

This month We had our first Nurturing Ourselves Workshop at the shelter.  This workshop was created with the goal of providing the women at our shelter with a great afternoon filled with pampering and self care. While women are at our shelter, their days are always busy.  Between looking after their children, attending appointments, personal errands, and trying to stay calm during a difficult time, the physical and emotional toll can  be great. We created the Nurturing Ourselves Workshop to give women a space to relax, unwind, rejuvenate, and practice self-care. This new program will run twice a month.

Our first session was great! Women were very excited to do manicures, pedicures, and makeup and share creative tips on how they like to relax.   Despite the rainy, cold day outside, everyone’s spirits were lifted by the smell and taste of freshly baked cookies and hot coffee prepared by the staff.  Sharon, a mother of three particularly enjoyed the group as it gave her some time to relax and recharge after taking care of her children all day.  She had this to say: “On such a dreary, rainy day the Nellie’s Group made it sunny with manicures and taking care of ourselves.”

Thanks to the generous support of The Body Shop Eaton Centre, we were able to provide every woman with a lovely self-care product at the end of our first workshop.  Items included body lotion, body wash, shampoo and conditioner. These items added a special touch to the workshop and will remind the women to take some time out of every day to pamper themselves.

We look forward to our next session of the Nurturing Ourselves Workshop.

International Day for the Eradication of Poverty

Posted on: October 17th, 2012 by Nellie's No Comments

Today, October 17, is the International Day for the Eradication of Poverty, established by the United Nations in 1993. Eliminating poverty may seem like an unattainable goal, but much can be accomplished by a more equal distribution of the world’s resources.  According to UN studies, women represent 70% of the world’s poor people. Although women do 66% of the world’s labour, according to The World Bank, they only earn 10% of global income and own a mere 1% of the world’s land.  According to The Canadian Feminist Alliance for International Action,  much of this inequality exists in Canada, where, women (including part-time and part-year workers) earn 64.0% as much as men and Aboriginal women earn 46% as much as men.

At Nellie’s we view poverty as a form of violence against women.  In 2004 we completed our position paper on this topic, and wrote about women experiencing multiple oppressions such racism, ableism, and raising children as a single parent, which all impact their experience of poverty. Nellie’s works in partnership with programs such as the December 6 Fund , which provides interest-free loans to  help women pay rent and clear debts. We are campaigning against the Ontario Government’s plan to cut the Community Start-Up and Maintenance Benefit,  a payment that helps women pay for heat and electricity so they can avoid eviction. We are also involved with the Right to Housing Campaign, led by the Advocacy Centre for Tenants, Ontario. This campaign is based on the fact that under the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms, we all have a right to adequate, affordable housing.  Nellie’s is organizing a public forum on our right to housing on November 22, which is National Housing Day.

If you’d like to help eradicate poverty, you can write to your Member of Provincial Parliament and demand an end to the cuts in social assistance, especially the Community Start-Up Benefit.  You can commemorate the International Day for the Eradication of Poverty by joining The Ontario Coalition Against Poverty at their protest of social assistance cuts today at 12 noon (details here). They are planning mass applications for the Start-Up Benefit, followed by a lunch and a march on the Provincial Government to deliver the applications.

Ending women’s poverty will help the whole community.  Let’s make it happen!

Team Nellie’s set to Run and Walk in the Toronto Waterfront Marathon

Posted on: October 11th, 2012 by Nellie's No Comments

Wow.  We can’t believe it is only 3 days until Team Nellie’s takes on the Toronto Waterfront Marathon for our second year in a row! Our team has been busy training and fundraising and we are excited to announce that this morning we surpassed the $10,000 mark! Congratulations to our Top 3 Fundraisers Anna Von Frances, Lori Loewen, and Victoria Lucas from Viva Pulse!

(Top Fundraiser Anna Von France)

Running a half-marathon or a 5K is no easy feat, and we feel honoured and privileged that our team members have made the commitment to run for a cause and help us end Violence Against Women. 100% of the money raised will go to support our programs for disAbled women, including our Women and Accessibility Support Group.  After we launched this group last year, the feedback from participants has been clear: there are not enough services for this population and our services to them are greatly needed.

This weekend we’ll be keeping you updated via our facebook and twitter pages while we’re at the run! Keep an eye out for some great pictures and messages and follow hashtag #STWM and #TeamNellies.  If you’re out on race day, and you see someone wearing this on their back, be sure to give them a cheer!

If you’d like to support our team by making a donation, you can do so here. Thanks to everyone who has supported us so far! Now, it’s time to rest up those legs and wait for Sunday.  GO TEAM!

World Mental Health Day: Miriam’s Story

Posted on: October 10th, 2012 by Nellie's No Comments

All over the world on October 10th, people will celebrate World Mental Health Day, organized bythe World Health Organization (WHO), a facet of the United Nations. The purpose of the day is to raise public awareness of mental health issues. This year’s theme is Depression: A Global Crisis.  Please see WHO’s website for more info.

At Nellie’s, we have developed a position paper on our analysis and understanding of mental health. We understand that women experience an intersectionality of oppressions, including racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, poverty, classism, oppression based on place of origin, immigration status, age, appearance, record of offences and mental and physical dis/Abilities. We understand that these systems of oppression, including a history of violence can have differential impacts on different women. Women cope with these barriers, lack of access to resources and different forms of stigma and discrimination in various ways. Sometimes, when women survive trauma, they use different strategies to cope, in order to stay alive. Sometimes these coping strategies appear to be symptoms of mental health.

However, we work from a framework where counselling and support and an identification and understanding of the impact of different systems of oppression, along with an unraveling of the traumatic narrative through counselling are the most effective tools to support a woman. Women often come to the shelter with mental health diagnoses and we support them to understand their diagnoses from a feminist framework and provide options and support.

Miriam is a woman who lives at Nellie’s. She arrived in Canada two years ago and brought her daughter with her, but had to leave her son behind due to immigration. Although she speaks to him on the phone daily, being separated from him causes her great pain and she cries often. She will sponsor her son as soon as she can. Her daughter constantly asks her when she’s going to see “Daddy” again and Miriam finds it painful to answer, since he is the abuser and one of the main reasons why she had to flee the country. Also, Miriam grew up in a place where there was civil war and she witnessed unspeakable horrors and genocide.

She went to visit her lawyer a few weeks ago and her lawyer told her that her refugee application was denied, but that she is in the process of filing for an appeal. After hearing this news, she started to feel sick, as she feared for the lives of her children and herself, should she have to go back. Miriam felt so saddened and numb that at one point, she was unable to get out of bed or shower. She also started having flashbacks of the genocide that she witnessed as a child. So, Miriam went to her doctor at the Community Health Centre and asked to speak to a psychiatrist. She explained to the doctor how she felt but left out the part about the flashbacks, which were just too horrifying to talk about. The psychiatrist gave her a diagnosis of major depressive disorder and wrote her a prescription for anti-depressants.

She came home to Nellie’s and told the staff about her diagnosis of depression, sighed, and slumped back in her chair. “I guess there really is something wrong with me”, she said. “The doctor told me that it’s just a chemical imbalance and that these pills should make things better.” How will the pills change her immigration status?

Don’t you think that Miriam has reason to be sad? Stressed? Upset? Wouldn’t anyone feel a similar way given this scenario? The reality is that women who have experienced violence and oppression are often given mental health diagnoses due to a lack of understanding of how trauma and oppression can impact a person. This can create stigma and create barriers to understanding the effects of trauma and oppression.

Join us on World Mental Health Day in increasing awareness and understanding and decreasing stigma associated with mental health.  To read our Position Paper on Women and Mental Health, click here.