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Our weekly food program gets a brand-new home

Posted on: April 18th, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

newfoodbankAt the end of January, our weekly food program moved to a new location inside the Kimbourne Park United Church in the East Danforth neighbourhood, and our team is feeling so fortunate to be able to run our program out of this beautiful, spacious spot.

“The church has been such an amazing partner in helping us along the way — they’re super supportive,” says Amanda Nobile, our Community Support & Outreach program coordinator. “And the space itself has been great. It’s so nice to have a larger space where we can spread out more. It’s been very smooth in the way that we’ve set it up to hand out food to our clients. It’s also just a beautiful, calm space, with a really nice energy. It feels very nice to be in this beautiful place that we’re so welcomed in.”

Every week, 120 families rely on our food program to access a basic human need — that’s as much as double the number we were serving just a year prior. And there are another 60 families we could be serving if we had the resources. Our new, larger location provides the space to potentially expand our program, but in order to do so, we’ll need to secure additional food donations, and have the people power for client administration, food sorting, and cleaning. Currently our team is working on grant applications to help us purchase fridges and freezers for our new location, which would allow us to store more fresh food, and start offering weekly milk, eggs, meat, and bread for our clients.

As with most food programs, we depend on donations from our community and agencies. Every Tuesday morning, our friends at Second Harvest — a food rescue charity — deliver fresh, frozen, and packaged foods. From week to week, we fill food baskets with a wide variety of foods, like fresh fruit and vegetables, pasta and rice, peanut butter, and milk. We round out each basket with stock from our own non-perishable food pantry to ensure that each family receives a nourishing mix of protein, canned and boxed goods, and produce.

While we work towards adding more fresh food to our offerings, Amanda hopes that we’ll be able to start increasing the amount of food we can provide to our clients each week. “I know a lot of our clients go to more than one food bank,” says Amanda. “I’m hoping we’ll be able to eliminate that, that they’re not going to have to run around and go to multiple different food banks — they’ll only have to do a one-stop shop and have enough food for the week.”

Now that we’ve settled in our new location, we’ve been thrilled to see the many ways this larger space can enhance our food program experience and increase the number of families we support through this crucial service. “[In our previous location], we used to only be able to have a few volunteers, especially since the space was small,” explains Amanda. “But now we’ve been able to get volunteers through the church as well, and they’ve been such an amazing help. It’s way less stressful and the whole production of everything is just so much quicker.”

Thank you again to Kimbourne Park United Church for being such an amazing partner, and helping us provide an enhanced food program experience for our Nellie’s clients!

To make a secure online donation to our food program, please donate here.

Celebrating International Women’s Day at Nellie’s

Posted on: March 27th, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

Every year on March 8th, the world comes together to celebrate International Women’s Day — a day dedicated to recognizing the achievements of women, raising awareness about gender equality, and advocating for women’s rights worldwide. As a women’s shelter focused on creating social change through education, advocacy, and support, International Women’s Day holds profound significance for us. It’s a day when we reaffirm our commitment to standing in solidarity with women, advocating for their rights, and fostering a community where every woman feels safe, valued, and empowered to thrive.

This year, on March 14th, we marked International Women’s Day with a special in-person event celebrating inspirational women. It was incredible to see our community of supporters and staff come together for the evening, which was also a part of our year of celebrations in honour of Nellie’s 50th anniversary. (Click through the photos below to see the full-size images!)

Our keynote speaker was Samra Zafar, an award-winning internationally renowned speaker, bestselling author and educator for equity, mental health, and human rights. Her book, A Good Wife: Escaping The Life I Never Chose, is based on her journey of escaping an abusive child marriage to pursue her education. Samra’s talk was inspiring — she focused on the importance of resilience, incorporating her story as a child bride, eventually going to university, and now about to graduate medical school. She also spoke about how to not get in your own way, and how to cut ties with people who are not good for you.

Our attendees were also treated to an electrifying performance from award- winning singer/ songwriter Domanique Grant. Her uplifting and empowering songs had the entire audience up on their feet, dancing and singing along with her. This “artist to watch” (as Spotify named her) is an extremely talented performer, and we loved having her feel-good self-love anthems as part of our special evening.

Thank you to all who attended our very special International Women’s Day event, and a very special thank you to Samra and Domanique for sharing their stories and music with us. We hope to see you all at our next celebration!

50 facts for 50 years of Nellie’s (part 2)

Posted on: March 21st, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

photobooth12023 marks 50 years since we first opened our doors. It is an incredible milestone, and a reminder of the shelter and support we have given to thousands of women and their children fleeing violence, trauma and homelessness since 1973.

To mark our 50-year anniversary, we’re sharing 50 facts about Nellie’s. Read on to learn about our shelter, our community programs, and so much more.

  1. Breaking the cycle of violence by focusing on empowerment and prevention is an essential focus for Nellie’s as we move into our next 50 years. Not only are we supporting women when they experience violence, but we are now also acting preventatively in order to fight for a better future.
  2. In 2022, Nellie’s staff were trained to integrate a powerful empowerment self-defense (ESD) program into our support programs for women, and we became the first gender-based violence organization in Canada to implement the world-renowned anti-bullying program aimed at children, Rock and Water.
  3. For both our ESD and Rock and Water programs, the approach is very different from the traditional model for self-defense. The former provides training on proactively preventing, responding and healing from traumatic events, whereas the latter teaches kids through a series of exercises and games about setting their own boundaries, making independent decisions, using communication, and respecting others’ limits.
  4. In addition to ESD within our shelter, this program has since also been adapted into a community workshop. In the first four months of running our prevention programs, Nellie’s taught a total of 297 unique participants at the shelter and in the community.
  5. While Rock and Water has already made an incredible impact on the children living at Nellie’s, we’re now spreading these powerful anti-bullying techniques to children beyond our walls. Last year we ran an 8-week pilot program in a Grade 4/5 class in a school in Brampton, and we hope to bring this program to additional schools this year.
  6. In 2023, Nellie’s was selected to showcase our empowerment self-defense work at the 2023 NGO CSW67 Forum in New York City, an event that runs in parallel to the UN Commission on the Status of Women.
  7. The forum, which was attended by 15,000 people from 139 different countries, consisted of hundreds of events throughout a two-week period. In our presentation, we shared how shifting our focus from reaction to prevention is crucial to ending gender-based violence and how it has allowed us to discover the role that empowerment self-defense can play in helping women achieve transformative justice.
  8. In 2023, 550 people were supported by our Community Support & Outreach (CSO) programs, including Senior Socialization, which provides vital engagement for older clients; Women on the Move for women with disabilities; Women Ending Abuse and Violence (WEAV), which focuses on teaching women about healthy dating and relationships; and our food program.
  9. Nellie’s runs three to five different CSO programs every week.
  10. Thanks to a government grant and in-kind support from our incredible community, 85 seniors participated in our Senior Socialization program last year, which included regular computer literacy sessions, bi-weekly yoga classes, and trips to attractions, such as the Royal Ontario Museum, Art Gallery of Ontario, and Ripley’s Aquarium.
  11. In the past year, our WEAV program has focused on providing healthy dating and relationship guidance for young women through a new five-week workshop. Designed to teach women how to keep themselves safe in relationships, the workshop creates a welcoming space where women can learn about the spectrum of abuse, signs that can lead to unhealthy relationships, and common terminology like gaslighting and love bombing.
  12. While the Healthy Dating & Relationships workshops were initially intended for high school and university students, their success has snowballed, with requests pouring in from other shelters and community centres, for women of all ages.
  13. Over the last year, 60 workshop sessions were delivered through the WEAV program, with 105 different women participating.
  14. Designed to address the gap in services for women with physical disabilities who have experienced abuse, our Women on the Move program resumed in November 2023 with a new cohort of 25 women enrolled, at least 10 of whom are consistently attending each session.
  15. For over 20 years, the Nellie’s food program has been supporting women and their children living in our community.
  16. Every week, 120 families rely on our food program to access a basic human need — that’s as much as double the number we were serving just a year prior.
  17. From week to week, our food program fills food baskets with a wide variety of foods, like fresh fruit and vegetables, pasta and rice, peanut butter, and milk. We round out each basket with stock from our own non-perishable food pantry to ensure that each family receives a nourishing mix of protein, canned and boxed goods, and produce.
  18. In January 2024, our food program moved into a new space inside the Kimbourne Park United Church. This new location has the potential to expand our program, and we’re hoping to soon offer weekly milk, eggs, meat, and bread for our clients.
  19. Nellie’s is currently participating in Food Bank Canada’s Menstrual Equity Fund Pilot to help address period poverty in Canada.
  20. Last summer, 11 children staying at Nellie’s participated in a Learn to Bike program, along with children living at The Redwood, another Toronto-area shelter for women and children. Through this program, the kids each received their very own new bike and helmet, and learned about bike safety and how to ride. Plus, the bikes and helmets were theirs to keep and take with them when they left the shelter.
  21. In our Chef’s Corner, a part of our Children’s Program, we teach older kids living at Nellie’s how to make simple recipes like sandwiches and fruit salad — with the goal that when they leave the shelter, they know how to make easy snacks or meals on their own.
  22. In 2023, Nellie’s joined over 100 organizations in signing an open letter to the Ontario government to declare Intimate Partner Violence an epidemic.
  23. Thanks to a financial contribution from Health Canada, we’re currently developing a brand-new substance use program which aims to increase the knowledge of and build additional capacity for harm reduction services within violence against women shelters.
  24. Backpacks aren’t just for back-to-school time at Nellie’s. We fill backpacks year-round with clothing and other essentials that moms who come to Nellie’s might need for their little ones. For moms of babies or toddlers, the backpacks can also conveniently double as diaper bags.
  25. With a focus on empowerment and prevention, we’re shifting the tide from measuring how many people are coming through our doors, to how we are truly changing the world. The hope is that by the time Nellie’s celebrates 100 years, there will be less of a need for us as a crisis organization.

50 facts for 50 years of Nellie’s (part 1)

Posted on: February 28th, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

IMG_49732023 marks 50 years since we first opened our doors. It is an incredible milestone, and a reminder of the shelter and support we have given to thousands of women and their children fleeing violence, trauma and homelessness since 1973.

To mark our 50-year anniversary, we’re sharing 50 facts about Nellie’s. Read on to learn about our shelter, our community programs, and so much more.

  1. Over fifty years ago, a group of women activists realized that in the city of Toronto there were only 40 beds available for homeless women and over 400 beds for homeless men. Moved to action by this inequity, Nellie’s was founded in 1973.
  2. Nellie’s was named after Nellie McClung, the pioneer feminist who challenged the Canadian government in the Supreme Court of Canada to have women declared persons under the law.
  3. Opened in 1973, our first shelter had 16 beds and was located on Broadview Ave.
  4. The shelter was initially established for young homeless women dealing with teenage pregnancy, suicide, self-harm, crime, prostitution, ill-health and abuse, but staff began to notice that most of the women accessing Nellie’s were middle-aged and older women fleeing domestic violence.
  5. In 1978, Nellie’s purchased the beautiful historic residential building that became home for more than four decades.
  6. Over the years, in response to the overwhelming need, Nellie’s increased its occupancy rate to 36 beds and made the main focus of the organization disrupting violence against women and their children.
  7. In the early ’90s, current Toronto MPP Kristyn Wong-Tam worked at Nellie’s as an overnight relief worker.
  8. In 2002, Nellie’s opened its Community Support and Outreach office on Queen St. E. Here we provided programming, transitional housing support, a food bank, and more to women and their children who had moved out of the shelter and those who lived in our community at risk of homelessness.
  9. Thanks to a generous grant from La Fondation Emmanuelle Gattuso, in 2017 Nellie’s launched a children’s program to address the wide range of issues facing children living at the shelter, while also providing them with a safe space to play, explore, and laugh.
  10. Two years later, an additional grant allowed Nellie’s to expand the program to also focus on supporting teens living in our shelter.
  11. What started out as a simple craft-based program for little ones in the basement playroom of our old shelter has grown, and now our children’s program spans three bright, window-lined rooms in our new shelter, with spaces and programming suited for kids of all ages.
  12. In 2019, Nellie’s secured a substantial government investment for the purchase of a new shelter building and began raising capital to complete the necessary renovations.
  13. Before we could move into our new shelter, the building required a lot of renovations — including historic brick and window restoration, roof repair, plumbing upgrades, and fireproofing.
  14. In 2022, Nellie’s moved into its current home, a stunning three-storey Victorian building in the east end of Toronto, which was originally built in 1901.
  15. The new shelter is 21,800 sq. ft., compared to the old shelter’s 8,900 sq. ft. footprint.
  16. Our new shelter has capacity for up to 38 beds across 22 bedrooms (an increase from 36 beds across 9 rooms in the old building), giving some privacy to each family unit.
  17. Each bedroom has its own private bathroom — four of which are barrier-free.
  18. More than just more bedrooms, the new shelter gives us more program space, more living space, more dining space, more play space for kids, more quiet space, and more space for our staff to work together on new and innovative approaches to trauma support and violence prevention.
  19. When visitors walk into Nellie’s, one of the first things they’ll see is our “Hearts & Hands” mural hanging in our common room. Created in 2002 by residents and staff at Nellie’s, it represents the community and hope found within our walls.
  20. The move to our new shelter led to us closing the Community Support and Outreach office on Queen St. In 2023 we opened a new office on Cosburn Ave. in East York to continue offering these services.
  21. This past summer, Nellie’s invested in an e-bike for staff members to use while running errands or when commuting between our shelter and our community location on Cosburn. Eco-friendly, cost-effective, and FUN!
  22. With pet-friendly bedrooms, a pet care room, and an outdoor play area, we’re thrilled that our new shelter is pet-friendly! We’re proud to be one of just a handful of shelters in Toronto to accept pets — because domestic violence victims shouldn’t have to choose between their own safety or the safety of their beloved animals.
  23. In 2022/2023, 81 women stayed at Nellie’s, along with 61 children. During this time, one baby was also born at the shelter!
  24. Over the same time period, 104 women received housing support from Nellie’s through our Transitional Housing Program. This program helps women who have situations of violence, poverty, and homelessness access safe and affordable housing.
  25. In the last year, the average length of stay at Nellie’s was five months — about twice as long as the previous year due to the critical lack of affordable housing availability in Toronto.

Stay tuned for part 2, coming up next month!

How Nellie’s is helping end gender-based violence worldwide

Posted on: February 8th, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

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Last week, Nellie’s was invited to join the Ontario Association of Interval and Transition Houses’ (OAITH) meeting with Jarmila Lajacakova, Advisor for Human and Minority Rights, and Lucia Duranova, Domestic Affairs Officer, both from the Office of the President of the Slovak Republic, to share knowledge on our work to end gender-based violence. Here’s what executive director Jyoti Singh has to say about this incredible opportunity:

It was an extreme honour to meet with Jarmila and Lucia, the delegation from the Slovak Republic. As vice president of the OAITH board of directors, I relished the opportunity to learn about the work being done by the Slovak Republic government, as well as our sister agencies across Canada, to end gender-based violence in our communities. Representatives from The Redwood, Centre for Research & Education on Violence Against Women & Children, WomenatthecentrE, White Ribbon and LEAF (Women’s Legal Education & Action Fund), all shared knowledge and experiences in our work to fight gender-based violence. The meeting was an amazing opportunity for collaboration, and we hope that it helped to lay the foundation for international cooperation to end gender-based violence across the globe.

The session also allowed me the opportunity to speak about the excellent work we do at Nellie’s. We were able to share our philosophy that although we operate a crisis shelter, it’s our work to disrupt the cycle of violence that truly fuels us forward. Due to the way that we receive funding from the government, our business is crisis — but should it be? Crisis still has a role, unfortunately, but we need to focus on shifting our efforts towards prevention.

The saddest realization to come out of our meeting was that while the characters may change, the essential stories of GBV are similar around the world regardless of age, ethnicity, religion, political stripe, or culture. Women are being killed all around the world.

Here in Ontario, OAITH does the hard work of tracking the number of femicides each month in our province. The association is relentless in its efforts to ensure the women whose lives are stolen by GBV are represented, and they aren’t just a quick blip on the news headlines only to soon be forgotten.

The delegation from the Slovak Republic met with us to learn more about this important work and the methodology used. While I’m proud to support OAITH in its work, it disheartened me that counting femicides is a task that needs to continue to grow. The fact that we need to increase our expertise in counting murdered women is extremely distressing.

Near the end of our meeting, in my role as vice-president of the board for OAITH, I had the immense pleasure of presenting the delegation with a set of Wrapped in Courage scarves as a sign of solidarity in our continued work to address GBV across borders. We were promised that a scarf would be delivered to Zuzana Čaputová, the president of the Slovak Republic, and we look forward to seeing her “wrapped in courage”.

Meet Katherine Knowlton, Nellie’s new board co-chair

Posted on: January 31st, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

KatherineKnowlton_28Katherine Knowlton was brought up in an environment that really valued volunteerism. “My mom was always involved in the charitable sector,” she explains. “She was a fundraiser for a number of years at hospital foundations and other organizations. So that was ingrained in me from a really young age — that idea that there’s a lot of work to be done, and the importance of giving back to your community in that way.” So once she came out of the hazy days of new motherhood, Katherine knew that it was time for her to find a volunteer role where she could truly make an impact. In September 2023, Katherine began her term as co-chair of the Nellie’s board of directors.

Katherine’s professional career strongly complements her work for Nellie’s, as well — for the past 7 years, she has worked with the Canadian Accounting Standards Board (AcSB) in improving financial reporting for private sector entities, including not-for-profit organizations. “It’s a harmonious relationship, in that certainly a lot of what I learn at work I can bring to the work that we’re doing at Nellie’s, in terms of making sure there’s good financial oversight and accountability,” explains Katherine. “And then on the flip side, I learn so much at Nellie’s every day that I can bring to my work with another angle, to help bring that perspective into developing standards for the not-for-profit sector.”

But why Nellie’s? While there are a few reasons why Katherine felt particularly drawn to Nellie’s, the first is geographical: she lives in the same east end neighbourhood as our shelter, and she wanted to do work that benefitted her local community. She was also specifically interested in working with a shelter because when she was in high school, she volunteered at the Ronald McDonald House in Halifax. Although the two organizations have different mandates, Katherine notes that there’s a similarity in how both Nellie’s and Ronald McDonald House understand that a warm and welcoming place can provide much-needed comfort to people during tough times.

As Katherine learned more about the work Nellie’s does outside of our shelter, especially our advocacy work in breaking the cycle of gender-based violence, the choice to work with Nellie’s felt like a no-brainer. And as a mom of two young children, she felt an even stronger pull to our organization. “Having the perspective of being a mother as well, knowing that Nellie’s supports a lot of moms in very tough times, it just all aligned to where I felt my time could be best spent,” says Katherine.

As a busy mom (plus the owner of a dog named, coincidentally, Nelly!), Katherine’s all about driving tasks towards the finish line. “I like to get things done — I like to drive things forward and see things through to conclusion,” she says. “So I’d like to hope that I can bring some of that to the board as we continue certain initiatives and really focus on getting things done across all different aspects of what the board’s doing in overseeing the work at Nellie’s.”

Thank you, Katherine, for sharing your story and for your time and service to Nellie’s.

Thanks to our donors for their support during the holidays

Posted on: January 29th, 2024 by Nellie's No Comments

2023holidayparty2Here at Nellie’s, we are forever grateful for our community of supportive donors. Over the 2023 holiday season, we were overwhelmed by the generosity we saw from individuals, corporations, and neighbours who donated gifts for the women and their children at Nellie’s.

We cannot express how appreciative we are of the many donors who helped provide a happy holiday to our shelter and community clients. There are way too many people to thank, but here are just a few of the organizations who helped us make a difference over the holiday season.

Realstar Management

Thank you to Realstar, whose employees once again came together and donated much-needed items (including new toys, chocolates, wrapping paper, and gift cards) to help make this holiday season a happy one for so many families in our community. We’re so thankful that supporting Nellie’s has become your holiday tradition.

One Academy Leslieville

One Academy, a gym located in the Leslieville neighbourhood, has a mission to fill hearts with hope, bodies with strength, and minds with confidence — something we aim to do at Nellie’s as well. In December, One Academy ran a full day of community classes in support of Nellie’s. 81 members of the One Academy family worked together to raise $3,000 to help women and their children regain their footing after experiencing the effects of abuse and homelessness.

Miracle Toronto

It wasn’t a miracle, but rather a lot of hard work by organizers Nick Kennedy and Andree Moore, which resulted in an incredible $40,000 donation from Miracle on Bloor this year. Since 2019, this wonderfully kitschy Christmas-themed pop-up cocktail bar has raised over $150,000 to support Nellie’s programs and services.

Tobia Homes Royal LePage Estate Realty

The team at Tobia Homes, led by Diane Tobia, provided a holiday gift box with gift cards, toiletries and chocolates (a definite hit) for our residents for a second year in a row. Not only does Royal LePage Estate Realty support Nellie’s for the holidays, but they also provide us with ongoing monetary assistance.

We also want to thank:

  • Cineplex Odeon for helping us provide a gift to the teens at our shelter needing support over the holidays, because teens (especially young teen boys) are often overlooked during the holidays;
  • The GTA Shoebox Project for the amazing gifts for women and girls in our shelter;
  • Santa Comes to Bay Street for providing gifts for every child staying with us;
  • The Christmas Pyjama Project from Riverdale Wealth Management, for providing brand-new pyjamas to everyone in the shelter; and
  • CP24 CHUM Christmas Wish for helping to cover the cost of buying gift cards for our food program recipients.

50 years of Nellie’s: A timeline

Posted on: November 16th, 2023 by Nellie's No Comments

HandsMuralFifty years ago, a group of women activists realized that in the city of Toronto there were only 40 beds available for homeless women and over 400 beds for homeless men. Moved to action by this inequality, Nellie’s was founded in 1973 — and it was named after pioneer feminist, Nellie McClung (who was one of five women who challenged the Canadian government in the Supreme Court of Canada to have women declared persons under the law). Here are some of our biggest milestones over the last fifty years:

1973: Nellie’s opens its doors with a 16-bed shelter on Broadview Ave. While initially established for young homeless women dealing with teenage pregnancy, suicide, self-harm, crime, prostitution, ill-health and abuse, staff began to notice that most of the women accessing Nellie’s were middle-aged and older women fleeing domestic violence.

1978: Nellie’s purchases the beautiful historic residential building that became home for more than four decades. Over the years, in response to the overwhelming need, Nellie’s increased its occupancy rate to 36 beds and made the main focus of the organization disrupting violence against women and their children.

2002: Nellie’s opens its Community Support and Outreach office on Queen St. E. Here we provided programming, transitional housing support, a food bank, and more to women and their children who had moved out of the shelter and those who lived in our community at risk of homelessness.

2017: Thanks to a generous grant from La Fondation Emmanuelle Gattuso, Nellie’s launches a children’s program to address the wide range of issues facing children living at the shelter, while also providing them with a safe space to play, explore, and laugh. Two years later, an additional grant allowed Nellie’s to expand the program to also focus on supporting teens living in our shelter.

2019: Nellie’s secures a substantial government investment for the purchase of a new shelter building and begins raising capital to complete the necessary renovations.

2022: Nellie’s moves to the stunning three-storey Victorian building we now call home. Our new shelter has capacity for up to 38 beds across 22 bedrooms (an increase from 36 beds across 9 rooms in the old building), giving family units some privacy, and ample space to provide supportive programs and services. The move closed the Community Support and Outreach office on Queen St., and in 2023 we opened a new office on Cosburn Ave. in East York to offer these services.

2023: Nellie’s gains ground with empowerment self-defense work at the 2023 NGO CSW67 Forum in New York City, an event that runs in parallel to the UN Commission on the Status of Women.

An interview with Nellie’s former staffer, Kristyn Wong-Tam

Posted on: October 12th, 2023 by Nellie's No Comments

IMG-33152023 marks 50 years since we first opened our doors. It is an incredible milestone, and a reminder of the shelter and support we have given to thousands of women and their children fleeing violence, trauma and homelessness since 1973.

In an occasional series, we’re highlighting stories from 50 years of Nellie’s, including former board members, volunteers, staff members, and more.

Kristyn Wong-Tam, Toronto Centre’s current Member of Provincial Parliament, was an overnight relief worker at Nellie’s in the early 1990s. As a first-year university student, Kristyn started working at Nellie’s somewhat by chance — they were already working at another women’s shelter downtown from 4pm to midnight, and so when they heard Nellie’s needed an overnight relief worker from midnight to 8am, they were keen to pick up an extra shift and earn some more money.

Although they were new to working in shelters, this wasn’t Kristyn’s first experience with homelessness. “At age 16, I came out to my parents, and after that I didn’t feel safe staying home anymore because there were threats towards me,” explains Kristyn. They spent the next two years trying to finish high school while sleeping on friends’ couches, in shelters, rooming houses, and even on the streets. “My story wasn’t unique — this was so prevalent, especially back in those years. But I was able to see first-hand what a difference it made for me to have a safe space and a bed of my own at a shelter, even if only for a night. I really quickly had a deep understanding and appreciation of what it means to have a safe space. And I know personally how quickly someone can lose their home. Because it’s not something I had anticipated. I come from a very tight-knit, small immigrant family. The last thing I would’ve expected was that I would’ve been on my own at the age of 16.”

In some ways, the women and their children coming into Nellie’s reminded Kristyn of their own experience — except now they were on the other side as a shelter worker. “I was able to see early on, the very deep care from Nellie’s in how they treated their clients,” says Kristyn. This was highlighted by how extremely disparate their experiences were in working at two women’s shelters at the same time. Kristyn recalls that at the other shelter (which is no longer in operation), the work was very impersonal. Part-time relief workers, most of whom were university students like Kristyn, would complete intake forms, dispense medications, and prepare food like scrambled eggs from a bag. “I’m pretty sure that during my entire time I was there, I never saw fresh fruits or vegetables,” remembers Kristyn, who was visibly moved by this strong memory. “When I saw the crates of fruits and vegetables come in at Nellie’s, that really struck me — because at the other shelter they were given nothing but frozen vegetables and canned foods. I’ll always remember those fruit and veggie deliveries. You don’t get that level of care at all shelters.”

Kristyn didn’t fully realize it then, but when they reflect back on their time at Nellie’s now, they understand that this experience helped them develop their values and lead them towards a path of political advocacy. Working at Nellie’s was eye-opening for them as they learned about systemic structural violence against women. Although they only were able to work at Nellie’s for a year, they refer to it as a “year of tremendous growth” for them.

“Working with homeless populations and women fleeing violence absolutely informed my political thinking,” explains Kristyn. “It helped me see the inequities and injustices of the world. It put it all in sharper focus. I translated my working and lived experiences into a desire to make policy and legislative change. To compel decision makers to do things differently. Those formative years, working in the shelters, opened my eyes to the structural changes that are needed.”

Thirty years later, Kristyn is proud to have played a role in Nellie’s history, and wants more people to understand the importance of the work that we do. “Nellie’s is meeting the response to homelessness by providing women with dignity — the dignity that they deserve and the care that they deserve,” says Kristyn. “It’s not just that Nellie’s is helping women rebuild their lives by directing them to a counsellor or a housing worker, but they’re also healing them while getting them back on their feet. Nellie’s has been a model of what shelter programming could be.”

As part of this interview, the Nellie’s team took Kristyn on a tour of our new shelter building, which just so happens to be in the same neighbourhood they grew up in. “Going back into the house, taking a tour, and our conversations today…it helped reinforce in me why I’m here doing this work,” says Kristyn. “I’ll always be so grateful that Nellie’s showed me another world was possible.”

Wanted: Team Members for a Very Important Mission!

Posted on: July 11th, 2013 by Nellie's No Comments

In 100 days, we will be returning to the start line of the Toronto Waterfront Marathon with Team Nellie’s! For the past two years, we have had the privilege of running and walking with dedicated, passionate, strong women and men in the marathon, half-marathon, and 5k challenges and we look forward to returning this Sunday October 20th.

Our cumulative fundraising total from this event, stands at $28,500 and this year we’d like to break through the $50,000 mark by raising $20,000! We know you can do it! Last year, 80% of our team members reached or surpassed their $250 fundraising goal, and 6 runners raised over $1000 each. With an easy-to-use online donations system and support from Nellie’s fundraising team, we’ll make sure you reach your fundraising goal and have fun doing it.

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100% of the funds you raise will go to support the many programs and services we offer at Nellie’s. From our Summer Kids Leadership Camp to our Women Experiencing Abuse and Violence Support Group, your fundraising dollars will go straight into the work we do to support and empower women and children leaving situations of violence and abuse.

Since 1973, we have had the honour of helping to rebuild the lives of over 15,000 women and children. On Sunday October 20th, we invite you to come out and show your strength, share your courage, prove your determination, and inspire hope in the belief that every woman and child has the right to live a life that is free from violence and oppression. Challenge yourself to a marathon, half-marathon, or 5k race, and join our team as we run, walk, and wheel to end violence against women.

Contact us at info@nellies.org or 416-461-0769 to join our team! We look forward to hearing from you.